Deep-dive: Clarity
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The power of knowing what matters most
Ever had that nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it?
Maybe your days are full, your life looks good on paper, and from the outside, everything seems fine. You’re successful. Capable. You’ve worked hard to get where you are.
And yet... beneath it all, there's a persistent fog. A low-level hum of something’s off. It’s not that you’re miserable, but there’s a disconnect. A sense that you’re moving forward, but not necessarily in the right direction.
You tell yourself you just need more time to figure things out. You journal, make pro-con lists, analyse every possible option. Maybe you even bounce ideas off people you trust. But despite all that thinking, the clarity never comes. The fog lingers.
Why?
Because clarity isn’t something that magically appears. It’s something we cultivate.
The difference between clarity and just thinking harder
When we feel lost, most of us default to overthinking. We analyse every option, try to predict the future, and attempt to think our way into certainty. But clarity doesn’t come from endlessly looping through possibilities.
It comes from stepping back.
From getting out of the noise long enough to hear what actually matters.
It’s the difference between staring at a tangled knot of thread and getting so close that you can’t see anything clearly vs. stepping back far enough that suddenly, you see the loose end that will unravel the whole thing.
Clarity isn’t knowing every step ahead. It’s knowing the next step with certainty. It’s when the fog lifts just enough for you to see which direction feels right—and trusting yourself enough to take it.
What clarity feels like
We often don’t recognize clarity when we experience it. It doesn’t always feel like a lightning bolt moment or a grand realization. More often, it’s a subtle but unshakable knowing.
It’s the deep exhale when you stop trying to force something that doesn’t fit.
It’s the relief of deciding this is what I want—and no longer needing external validation.
It’s the ease that comes when you no longer feel like you have to convince yourself.
Clarity is the moment you stop over-explaining your choices to yourself or others, because you simply know they’re right.
A personal moment of fog
I know this fog well. When I started my therapy practice, I knew I wanted to help people, but I was caught in an endless spiral of second-guessing.
Should I focus on one modality? Should I niche down? Should I offer something completely different? I’d go in circles, analysing each option, convincing myself I’d made a decision - only to doubt it the next day.
I spent ages in this loop.
Then, I did something different. Instead of searching externally for the "right" answer, I turned inward.
I asked myself:
What actually matters to me?
What kind of work makes me feel most alive?
Who do I feel drawn to help?
The moment I got clear on that, everything else clicked into place.
I wasn’t guessing anymore. I wasn’t trying to force myself into a path that didn’t fit. The fog lifted, and what remained was something simple, solid, and true: a path forward that felt right.
The hidden cost of uncertainty
When we lack clarity, we don’t just feel stuck - we stay stuck.
We hesitate on decisions that could move us forward.
We second-guess ourselves, wasting energy trying to “figure it out.”
We stay in situations that are “fine” but not fulfilling.
And the longer we stay in this cycle, the harder it feels to break out of it.
Because when we don’t trust ourselves to find clarity, we start looking outside ourselves for permission. We wait for a sign or for someone else to tell us what to do. But clarity isn’t something we can outsource.
How do you find clarity?
Clarity isn’t about figuring everything out overnight. It’s about creating space to get clear on what truly matters - so you can move forward with confidence.
It’s not another list of pros and cons. It’s not about ruminating until you’ve analysed every possible outcome.
It’s about tapping into what you already know, deep down - but have been too caught up in overthinking to hear.
This is exactly what we do in my Aligned & Clear session.
In 60 minutes, we’ll cut through the noise and get to the core of what matters to you.
Here’s what you’ll walk away with:
✅ A clear understanding of your core values - what actually drives you.
✅ A vision of what alignment feels like, so you recognise it when it appears.
✅ A plan for your next step, so you stop spinning and start moving forward.
This isn’t about adding more thinking - it’s about feeling what’s right and knowing how to trust it.
Are you ready to get Aligned and Clear?
If you’re tired of the fog and ready for clarity, let’s make it happen. You don’t have to do this alone. I’m offering my brand new Aligned & Clear one-off session to you, I have 4 slots available. Message me the word “ALIGN” if this sounds ideal for you!
Dear Natasha, great article! Your description of the fog resonated with me perfectly.
I truly appreciated your advice to look inward and question what matters to you. I also find it helpful to listen to my body and how it reacts when contemplating things. We often subconsciously sense that we don't want to be in certain places, work in specific niches, or engage with particular people, yet we rationalize these feelings so much that it can be hard to recognize and feel these gut signals.
However, they can guide us when we find ourselves in those thought loops you described so well in this post.